So I have a guilty pleasure and that is Teen Mom OG. One of the moms Amber, was scared to come out bi. The biggest issue I had was that she said her kids were the reason for being in the closet. Let me preface this I’m not bashing or shaming anyone just sharing my experience as a mom for 15 years.
There were times in my parenting career where I hid a lot of the ugly issues that came up from my kids. And then there were times when I could be transparent and sure that they would get it. I told my spouse, I want to be the kind of parent that when my kids become parents, there won’t be any glamour associated with my parenting legacy. I’m not perfect. Never had my shit together. I was winging it 80% of the time. And I kept comparing myself to Ms. Suzy Homemaker instead of trying to figure out what works best for us.
I have been shielded from a lot of adult crap when I was young. They still call themselves protecting me from whatever they feel I can’t handle. My dad was physically abusive. Bad communications about bad moods and I was a kid unaware. Because of that, I tell my kids when I am having bad day. And they respect that. It is vice versa too.
Vulnerability is welcome in my family and household. We can better understand each other and develop coping and communication skills. I hope the hard work pans out for us.